Do you crave connection? Are you looking for more from your relationships? As our online presence grows, do we end up losing more of our real life? Facebook messenger keeps me connected to friends and family – extremely vital during my years spent miles or oceans away from home. However, Facebook also harbors drama, which if not checked wreaks havoc with one’s own attitude. I’ve taken many steps to eliminate negativity from my news feed and fill my own timeline with positive only posts. In some ways, I have a community in social media. I strive to create a place where others feel appreciated and valued. I aim to make a positive difference in every life I touch, both online and in person.
Every relationship fulfills a need. Our basic need for connection and relationship is God-designed. If that were not the case, I don’t know that so much study would go into this field. Nearly every relationship theory has similar categories or levels. What I find most remarkable about all of these, is that God said it long before any theorist or psychologist.
A sense of safety and security – We like stability, to know what’s coming. That’s why we plan and prepare. How often, though in the midst of change, did God remind His people of His promise? He delivered them, time and again. His promise is just as sure today.
Variety and Interest – This can be adapting to new situations or going on grand adventures. Most often, I find my greatest adventures have been in new experiences: living overseas, homeschooling, starting a business.
Feeling significant – We want our lives to be purpose-driven, making things happen rather than waiting on things to happen TO us. We want to be part of the action, responsible for the outcome. God gave each of us different talents to use toward His divine purpose.
Love and Connection – From the beginning of Creation, God determined that people should have family and community. Even when He came to earth as a man, He built strong relationships with the disciples. If Jesus needed that level of human connection, why should we disregard its importance?
Opportunities to grow and contribute – The very design of the church relies on this category. If you aren’t growing, then you aren’t learning. If you aren’t learning, how can you serve? What good are your talents if you bury them?