Fix Your Newsfeed (and get rid of annoying ads)

In 2019, I sat down and recorded two simple videos about social media. Both were part of a 14-day live video challenge. The intention behind these videos was straightforward: how can we use social media to create connections and improve relationships?

Since then, the platforms have changed, but the simple steps in these videos still work. Whether you’re trying to grow a small business, stay in touch with family, or be a better friend in a digital world, real connection takes intention—even (or especially) online.

The two biggest complaints I hear (and make) are: “I never see anything I want to see,” and “It’s all ads or negativity.” I not only advise on how to fix these issues, but I also practice these strategies.

Problem 1: How to See Who You Want to See (Watch the original video here)

I narrowed everything I’ve learned from social media coaches into five simple points:

• Do NOT use the “like” button. Facebook does not count “likes” as interactions. Any other reaction (hearts, laughing faces, wow, care) shows Facebook you are interested in the content of the post. As one coach puts it, “likes are lazy.”
• Comments count the most. If you cannot come up with any words to type, try using emojis, GIFs, or even a sticker. That shows more intention and bumps posts from those people higher in your newsfeed.
• Message people directly. Send a personal message through Messenger to tell someone what their post means to you.
• Create and post content. Sharing the occasional meme is fine, but original content invites your friends and followers into your life, showing them what matters most to you.
• Keep it visual and simple. Posts with pictures generate more views than text-only. Videos—especially short-form (reels)—get even more attention. Unless you already have a following, shorter posts get read more often. You can always say, “Message me for more,” or link in the comments for the full blog post!

Problem 2: Negativity and Ads (Watch the original video here)

The world is full of bad news, grumbling and complaining, and nonsense. You can do your part to change that with your actions on social media. You can also use a few simple (and FREE) tools to eliminate the negativity in your newsfeed.

• Don’t engage with trolls. You can use the delete, report, and “hide all” options (tap/click the three dots next to the comment to find these tools).
• Don’t skip proofreading. Even short posts deserve a glance for spelling and tone. Grammarly is free and will give you suggestions and corrections on almost every website, including Facebook.
• Don’t ignore people. If someone comments or messages you, take the time to respond. This goes back to the first category—interacting with others helps your newsfeed reflect what and who you want to see.
• Don’t obsess over what others are doing. Celebrate their wins rather than allowing comparison to steal your joy or authenticity.
• BONUS: If you are on a computer, Facebook Purity has an extension that removes ads and allows you to customize what you want to see. This tool is also free, though you can make donations to support the creator. I first found this tool in 2012, and I’ve used it ever since. Click here to add it to your browser (I don’t receive anything for sharing this).

In a world flooded with likes, shares, and scrolling trends, it’s easy to forget: behind every profile is a person. Social media was never meant to replace our relationships, but to strengthen them.

I continue making content for visibility, encouragement, and connection. I genuinely care about people and want to add positivity and inspiration to the newsfeed. If something I share challenges one person to reach out, reconnect, or keep going—that’s reason enough.

David Ogilvy once said, “You’re not talking to a standing army—you’re talking to a moving parade.” Every scroll is a chance to speak life into someone as they pass by. Don’t miss the opportunity to change the world around you, even virtually.

Whether it’s a heart emoji, a kind comment, or a quick GIF, reach out. Let someone know: You matter. I see you. I’m glad we’re connected.